4.06.2009

Supersize me.



It's funny how sometimes things can't just come easy.


For example, our current issue being the guest count. Eerrrr. What we would like is a very small reception of 50 people, no children, intimate, and classy. With a follow up reception of potluck, children, no fuss, fun. Problem is, is that sometimes people like to disagree with your opinions on how you want to have your wedding.

I've actually spent all day today trying to figure out the right solution. Kids, no kids. Cousins, no cousins. Small wedding, bigger wedding. And after hours of tossing and turning and wasting several very nice trees worth of paper on listing making, I've made up my mind.

1. No kids.

2. Honorary cousins. [We've both chosen a cousin closest to us to invite to the formal reception, then all cousins and their wives will be invited to our casual reception.]

3. Slightly smaller than the bigger wedding.

That's it, my mind's made up. There's no turning back, now.



7 comments:

IntimateWeddings said...

I say go small.

melissa said...

It should be what you want - not what people tell you you should have. Stick to your guns girl.

Kitty Bear said...

Agree with melissa's post. It should be what YOU TWO want. Especially if you're footing the bill!

sunflowr0803 said...

I'm glad you finally figured things out. :)

Louise said...

This was a HUGE stickler for us too. We are lucky though. Our reception venue has 2 floors. The top floor has a room with a video projector. The kids are eating upstairs with kid-friendly food, movies and a babysitter/s (depending on how many come). After dinner and toasts they are welcome to come have cake and join the dancing portion of the reception. It was happy medium as I like kids 90% of the time. What I hate is when adults are conversing and the parent lets a child consistently interrupt, especially if that child is older than 3 or 4. Kids understand "wait" and "no" by then. I do not want to play second fiddle to a 4 year old vying for mommy when I'm trying to thank her for coming to my wedding! I do understand the budget thing though. One venue I visited had no discount (or a kid's plate) for children under 12. Like some 4 year old is going to eat seared tilapia with a cracked mustard glaze.....

Good call though. You need to do what's right for you. I wouldn't put it on the invite though. The way the invite is addressed should be a head's up for most. Other dimmer people will need to be told - word of mouth is best. I put the info I wanted to share on my website though since most folks are out of town. Anyone who asks you for an "exception" should be taken out back and beaten, or offered a local babysitting service or introduced to craigslist.

A.Mountain.Bride said...

Way to make up your mind and stick to it! Congratulations on being decisive! I struggle wtih that all the time and it's just too hard to amke everyone happy.

un-bride said...

I'm with you. No kids. I don't like screaming kids in any setting, let alone at my wedding.

And anyone who complains about my guest list is being told "I love you, but I can't afford to feed you." There's pretty much nothing they can say to that.